What we feel, that is our emotions, are a key factor in relationships. Let us say something about them.
Human emotions by their positivity:
1. A lower emotional spectrum (love and pleasure of weak intensity)
2. A mean emotional spectrum (love and pleasure of medium intensity)
3. The highest emotional spectrum (love and pleasure of strong intensity)
Human emotions by their negativity:
1. A lower emotional spectrum (hate and displeasure of weak intensity)
2. A mean emotional spectrum (hate and displeasure of medium intensity)
3. The highest emotional spectrum (hate and displeasure of strong intensity)
Experiencing of the mean ones only (= the way without extremes)
The first and the third emotional spectrums are removed and what remains is the second one. I hope that you can imagine how it would look like without all the most extreme passions, but also without all the weakest ones.
Experiencing of all emotions except for the most intensive ones:
The third emotional spectrum is removed and the first and the second one remain. I hope that you can imagine how it would look like without all the most extreme passions.
There are two ways of the distribution of the love (and of the other potential) that we need:
Either we have all the pieces of love and support in the other people, who are available to us any time we need them, or we are complete and all the potential we need is included in our personality, being its part. However, such a "complete condition" is typical of Gods, but not of us people who can never reach it fully, of course.
The old "Lukewarm Harmony" from my book "Amen"
Whereas the "Extreme Harmony" includes excessive good and excessive evil, its lukewarm form is characterized by averagely intensive feelings without maximal good and maximal evil. Not a single human being suffers too intensely, which is the main thing that matters.
At the time of the creation of my "Lukewarm Harmony", I was even considering the idea of taking beings existing in the other universes for neighbors in the meaning, that when we won't be too happy in our universe, we won't be the cause of their possible excessive unhappiness (now I am referring to the balance of opposites, which was my main criterion then).
The new "Lukewarm Harmony"
Similarly to the old version of this harmony, described above, every human being has the average amount of personal happiness. The entire amount of happiness of the whole society is divided by the number of its members and every single one of them has the resulting amount at his disposal (and the balance of opposites already is not the main criterion here).
Considering the total sum of everything what all the human souls are supposed to experience during one cycle of events in our Ball and now I am referring to "the Picture of Human Souls", the opinion of my young age was more or less correct. But if we consider the value of the society we live in or in which we will live in the future, it is already a bit wrong, since every society has a different amount of happiness at its disposal.
In our "Hellish third" (the left one, quite dark, about 35% big) is the average amount of happiness of normal people quite low. But in the "Miscellaneous third" (the right one, half light, about 30% big) is the average amount of human happiness much bigger. Because the "Heavenly third" looks like the opposite of the "Hellish third", and the "Miscellaneous third" is half light with one problematic place, the entire sum of the light (= happiness) and the dark (= unhappiness) of the whole Picture of Human Souls should be very slightly under zero (at least 2%; recently I have mentioned the range of - 4 and - 8 %, which was maybe too negative; the truth is that I am not fully sure about the value of the problematic place of the right third that decides the final result).
Generally, to avoid the biggest extremes in good and evil is advisable as well as to reach the average amount of happiness in every human being. But it is impossible to be put in practice in the "Hellish third" of the Picture of Human Souls. It is only realizable without Hellish people.
However, in the "Heavenly third" and partly also in the best places of the "Miscellaneous one", you cannot avoid the biggest good. Both "Heavenly" and "Hellish third" exclude the establishment of my "Lukewarm Harmony". The "Heavenly one" for being too good and the "Hellish one" for being too evil.
Benefit of avoiding the extremes
If we remove all the extremes and utilize well what has remained, we can get to very interesting results. Some examples:
1. Large Shepherd Dogs
80% power of the strongest, 80% quickness of the most quick, 80% will of those who have the highest one and similarly. Although in one discipline they can be overcame (for instance a Greyhound will run even faster than they do or a Bloodhound will track the game better than they do), in the overall performance where everything is needed (resistance against colds, ability to fight beasts, ability to fight human enemies, long walks, good social feeling to approach the other dogs in the pack etc.), they will turn to be the best ones.
By potential: (= by intensity)
No human being is loved by the entire potential of one's love, but at the same time no human being is not-loved at all (= to love neither too much nor too little). One part of love is given to a girl/boy friend or a wife/husband, other to (grand)parents, other to own children, other to the other relatives, other to friends, other to beloved pieces of land and similarly. Every human being must be loved by the ideal part & amount of one's potential of love.
Best is when our love is not fragmentized by such a way that is not suitable for us. For example, when all our close people are located in the same apartment together with us, we can become "overeaten" by their ever-lasting closeness. And contrariwise when they are located too distant from us, e.g. in a different country, it can be too difficult for us to meet them when we need their closeness.
I guess that in the majority of cases it would function this way and the most suitable thing is the harmonic fragmentation of our relationships, meaning not too close and at the same time not too distant. All our beloved people and favorite places should be reachable any time, when we really need (to be in touch with) them.
It often happens that the pieces of love located in others are not at hand when we need them, being unreachable for us not because of some large distance, but because of the time. They are not founding themselves in the present, but in the past or in the future.
Most of the time, when people are still little kids, they have grandparents. But as they grow older, they lose them and later they lose also their parents.
On the other hand, by becoming older, together with losing firstly grandparents and then parents, they are getting their own children and later also grandchildren.
Part of their life they are kids, part adults and part old people. And each of these periods of life has its benefits that all are needed by the human soul somehow.
You know, everything is needed. Part of the potential that our soul needs is located in our childhood, part in our adulthood and part in our old age.
We need the pieces of love experienced both with our parents & grandparents and with our children & grandchildren. We need the pieces of love experienced with the other relatives, friends and peer group, domestic animal etc. We need all the love that we need. And we need it :-)
3. Martial arts
It is not enough to be only the best kicker and striker, or the best wrestler, or a perfect psychologist who knows how to treat the other people, or a splendid lawyer who knows the law. But he who knows the essentials of all that, knowing both how to kick and strike, and how to use the body in combative situations that require wrestling techniques, at the same time how to approach people and how to do all that in the frame of the law, he, as a whole, is more efficient than any of those one-sided professionals separated and alone.
4. Foreign language
He who knows all the existing words from one letter is not able to make himself understood in that language, because he does not know words from all the other letters. But he who knows the essential words from every letter, he will already be able to make himself understood in that language.
None of the pieces of his body excels another, yet all of them are in ideal condition (which does not mean 'maximal') and co-operate perfectly.
Lesson: Do not reach the maximum level in one spectrum. Instead, use perfectly co-operating essentials of all the needed spectrums.
Bonus (genders and Heaven)
When we are in the Heaven, there we do not have our physical bodies and our soul does not express sexuality, that is one-sidedness, as much as during its physical life on Earth. The principle of how intensely it experiences relationships can be illustrated by the model of a person, the emotional spectrum of which includes both female and male feelings, being a perfect merge of the both.
Women have got a vagina and men a penis, despite it every one of them is different than others who have got the same gender. Whereas the essence of each of the two genders is compatible with a different range of feelings.
Let us remember the origin of male and female gender (excerpt from my book "Supergod"): "It is a so-called "root diversion from the original center", which is a modification of the model of the original androgynous & sexless human by the magnification of a part of the traits of his root and at the same time by the weakening of the remaining. The result is a "root surplus" on the one hand, on the other hand a "root deficit" (= a man or a woman - comment)."
More complex feelings can only be reached by the merge of the capabilities of the both genders. However, because in every opposite there is the element of its own opposite, every gender contains a very little bit of the traits & capabilities of the other one. But if these traits & capabilities are about being equal, which suggests "half a man half a woman", only then it reaches the more complex spectrum of the feelings.
The way such a person would experience "his or her" or if you like "its" relationships, is unusual to us. Because none of the two genders is in dominance, there would be no extremely-intensive love like a sexual intercourse with orgasm, but on the other hand there would not be any too cold relationships either.
If we added up the intensity of love between two lovers and between two acquaintances or friends and divided it by two, the resulting amount would be the value of the intensity of love, by means of which that "androgynous" person experiences its relationship to close people. It would be something between a normal relationship and a sexual one with orgasm, which means a warmer hearted friendship (in the meaning of improved or even "upgraded").
However, do not try to be like such a person! It is a theory that was explained here to make you understand the essence of genders and of love experienced by our souls in the Heaven, where they feel the streams of loving warmth between them and Heavenly plants & spiritual creatures.
By their intensity, these feelings can be compared to that on the border between a normal mood and an orgasm. And, by their "sexuality", to that in the range between the original physical gender and the androgynous & sexless model.
Anyway, here on Earth everybody should follow the traits of his or her physical gender without any attempts to change anything about it. Shortly, be the man or the woman like the God has created you.
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